When you are in an committed long term relationship it is very important to always make an effort to keep the love alive. although its easy to accomplish it doesn’t happen without putting a little of your spare time. You also need a sense of humor, patience, compassion, and lots of love.
I really do love my girlfriend. No one has EVER loved me so competely. She is an intriguing person, genuinely good hearted, and I couldn’t have chosen a better step-mother for my girls. Haing said that our romance is a bit on the boring side from what I am accostume to… wait let me explain. In the past, even though I have kids, I lived a nice balanced social life. During the day I went to all the kids activities the girls were part of and at night I would have babysitters care for my sleeping children while I mingled with the adults. That has changed since I started sharing my live with my wonderful girlfriend. The main problem is that my girlfriend work hours are not conventional. She has to be at work at 5am. As a concequence she HAS to be in bed no later than 10pm. Thus, there is not much room for a nightly social life. I have to admit, I really miss my social life.
I have considered having a social life by myself but I don’t want her to feel left out. I feel it is necessary for me to do what makes me happy but i have yet to find the best and most sesitive way to have a social life without her. In the meantime, while I am on the search of a good balanced social life without myGFi try to keep the romance alive by doing the following activities with my gorgeous girlfriend:
- First I try to tell her that I love her as many times as I can. I only say it when I mean it. She knows the difference. This is not so difficult after all she is very loving and very attrative. She might be the sexiest woman I’ve ever met. One of the many reasons why I love her.
- Believe it or not I buy her flowers. In fact it is in my to do list for today! She is always weirded out by my gesture but loves it at the same time. I just like to surprise her from time to time with something beautiful.
- I am also big on taking her out on early dates. Since she has to go to bed so early each day I try to hire babysitters for dinner time and during the weekend for brunch time. Everytime we go out on dates we regroup as a couple and I feel like we love each other a little more.
- Just resently she made me the first romantic dinner without the TV, candle light, romantic music and all (The kids were with their grandparents). I loved it!!!
- Wine is a staple at my place. I live to meet her at the door after a long day of work with a glass of wine and a hot drawn bath (she looooooves hot baths).
- On of ultimate things to do is TALK. without noices or interruptions, sometimes even without the lights. We just TALK. We make up topics we normally wouldn’t talk about or we ask specific questions that need to be asked. I once asked her what she would like to make our relationship better. We went on for hours.
- Once a month we go our DANCING! we both love to dance and we both love reggae. So once a month we go to our favorite reggae spot in the city and we just dance….
Romance is beautiful and it is difficult to gain. Once you have the person you want to be romantically involved with, regardless of the obstacles life might bring you, should always make time to make love happen.
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